FYI (if you’re a teenage girl)

I have considered writing a post very similar to this for quite some time … But then I stumbled onto this and it summed up my thought perfectly!
Please girls, love and respect yourselves first and foremost …

This is an excerpt from a post from “Mrs Hall” from www.givenbreath.com and so perfectly sums up my own heartfelt pleas for my boys AND for the girls out there …

Dear girls,

I have some information that might interest you. Last night, as we sometimes do, our family sat around the dining-room table and looked through the summer’s social media photos.

We  have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow you sure took a bunch of selfies in your skimpy pj’s this summer!  Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.

I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.

I get it,  you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.  What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.

So, here’s the bit that I think is important for you to realize.  If you are friends with a Hall boy on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, then you are friends with the whole Hall family.

Please know that we genuinely like staying connected with you this way!  We enjoy seeing things through your unique and colourful lens, you are insightful, and often very, very funny.

Which is what makes your latest self-portrait so extremely unfortunate.

That post doesn’t reflect who you are at all! We think you are lovely and interesting, and usually very smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what you were trying to do? Who are you trying to reach? What are you trying to say?

And now ‘big bummer’ we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know  your  parents care about you.

I  know  your  family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t quickly un-see it?  You don’t want our boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?

Neither do we. We’re all more than that.

And so, in our house, there are no second chances with pics like that, ladies. We have a zero tolerance policy.  I know, so lame. But, if you want to stay friendly with our sons online, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent.  If you post a sexy selfie  (we all know …read more


The rise of “SELFIES”

Ever wondered, from where and how this selfie culture began … http://www.icindylee.com/2013/11/ever-wondered-how-the-selfie-culture-began

 

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Cindy Lee, November 13, 2013
  • I’ve read this one before. I won’t do more than mention the self-righteousness and hypocrisy of her post, which was originally accompanied by photos of her boys posing topless on a beach (since updated with other pictures). She also appears to somewhat recant her original post here (http://givenbreath.com/2013/09/19/burning-down-the-house/) – it’s kind of hard to tell through the biblical allegories. There are some elements of truth to her original post in that there is a real problem with the sexualisation of teenagers in today’s world. But overall I fail to see how this is breathtaking naievity of the highest order – she appears to demand absolute perfection without exception to her own moral standards from any female her sons would ever meet. Does she also demand he same of her sons? It would appear not. It’s so unrealistic as to be insane. I’d also see this as risking seriously stunting emotional development of children – you simply cannot shut away challenging feelings until adulthood and expect to raise a well-rounded person. Take the general message, sure. The rest however is just a bit rich. Be yourself, girls (and indeed, boys). Have a laugh. Have some fun. By all means always try to remember any picture that is taken of you, these days, is now in the public domain and will never disappear. And if some boy’s mother doesn’t want you to have anything to do with her son because you wore a bikini to the beach and trout-pouted to a camera, move on and don’t let it ruin your life. It never would have worked with psycho-mother around in any case.

  • TLDR? Girls – have fun, enjoy life. Don’t be serious, but try not to be too stupid. Avoid boys with psycho mothers.

  • This! This is great! Majority of my school need to read this, unfortunately

  • Roland you may not agree with her entirely or her delivery or whatever and I may not either but it’s the heart of message that I’m interested in … and I do agree girls need to have fun but in doing so respect themselves. However, once it’s out there .. it’s forever out there!!

    I see my sons’ FB feeds filled with pictures of their ‘girl friends’ provocatively showing of their bodies & body parts in a way that could only be meant to tease & attract or friend requests and their profile pics are of boobs etc. It’s hard enough for boys & girls these days with so much sexuality forced in their faces to make right choices and so and so on.

    I’m sorry to state the obvious but I AM a parent and I see this daily and I see and talk with not only my boys but their friends and hear of the struggles they have in this regard … add to that I hear the stories of some of these young girls who have posted pictures of themselves that they shouldn’t have, who now how men all over the world sharing their pictures, commenting on them some vulgar and trying to contact them and friend them.

    Is there a correlation to the rapid increase in sexual abuse & so on and so forth?

    Gosh I could go on and on with stories but the bottom line is that youth today are faced with so much more to deal with that they aren’t ready to deal with at that age and don’t always make smart choices. Regret can be a b**ch and bad experiences painful. My heart is torn as much for these young girls as it is for my boys. I know cotton wool is not the answer and I certainly want them to have fun, enjoy life and live it fully, but if I can protect one young girl .. and my boys .. it’s worth it to me. You can bet I’m teaching my daughter to love and respect herself and be proud of who she is so she doesn’t feel the need to flaunt herself for affirmation.

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